Own your no. No is a complete sentence.
Shakespeare once wrote:
“To thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.”
What he means is: Take care of yourself first, and that way you’ll be in a position to take care of others.
Mary Morrissey said: Know that it’s not only okay to say no, it can be essential to say no.
It may feel very uncomfortable to say no, but eventually, you’ll begin to realize how good it feels to be authentic, and how much more love and energy you can express when you’re not only good to others, but when you’re good to yourself, too.
Not to mention that you can still be kind when you say no.
You can say, “I would love to do that, but I’ve got other plans that are really important to me, so ask me again another time. Next time, I’d love to help you.”
Let go of the guilt.
To help you more easily let go of any guilt you may feel when you say no to someone’s request, replace it with this thought:
“I wouldn’t want anyone else to say yes to me when they didn’t really want to say yes. I can say yes when I mean yes. I can say no when I mean no. I can love and care about others, AND I can love and care about myself.”